This book is not a feminist manifesto as most women would like it to be. The subject matter is not exclusive to women only. Rather than polarizing the class/gender stratifications, Mrs. Roosevelt speaks to all of her readers who feel less about themselves based upon their falsely limited views on representations of the reality. She was a Mother Figure to all Americans in her time and still speaks to us through this book of the importance of human dignity and positive attitudinal values to appreciate what we already possess in us regardless of things that we cannot change beyond our control as by telling us “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Of all the towering glittering famous women, it’s the mind of Mrs. Roosevelt that scintillates with brilliance because of her compassion toward humanity combined with her intelligence, which has become a rarity in our time.
I found this book while searching for an effective read on constructing a new model of reality in which I can find my real hidden self and thrive thereon. It’s said that nothing happens by coincidence, so I like to believe that my finding this magical book is fateful. This book pinpoints out the dilemma you will find yourself in when your new positive mantra clashes with the real world and tells you how to overcome it with some simple magical methods. I have been using one of the simplest forms of the magic since I read this book whenever the hands of darkness are about to grip me. It makes a big difference when you actually act out your volition in voice and gesture. You should try it too.
Some people who are academically brilliant or well-read are gauche in social interactions. And this betrays our general presumption that cognitive intellectual ability (“IQ”) corresponds to social skills that are essential to achieve success in career and/or relationships. It simply isn’t the case, unfortunately. IQ and EQ are two separate entities that work differently. I will tell you the epitome of what EQ is.
Emotional Intelligence or Emotional Quotient (“EQ”) is a faculty of recognizing, comprehending, and making decisions on how we think, feel, and act. It plays a vital role in shaping our interactions with others as well as our understanding of ourselves. EQ defines (1) how and what we learn; (2) allows us to set priorities; and (3) determines the majority of our daily actions. In fact, research hints us that the higher EQ is, the more successful one becomes.
In Emotional Intelligence: 30 Days to Higher Emotional Intelligence by Bob Smart (what a great perspicuous name it is!), the study of EQ can be traced back to the work of Charles Darwin who postulated that EQ was critical for survival. So the study of EQ has already been in progress, which asserts that it is not some fad theory to be regarded lightly.
Basically, what you need to improve your EQ is self-control and self-confidence. Smart in the book avers that it is vital that we should have solid self-confidence to guard ourselves against any disastrous social relationships that will lead us to our own unhappy ending in life. So in order not to be subject to such miserable consequences, the author advises us that we should be our own governors of our acts, not the subject of the act done by others.
To illustrate, we should say something like the following:
Do you get it? Instead of someone makes me feel the above-mentioned, it is “I” who feel that way. True that it was someone who made you feel negative, but it is you who are responsible for all the things that might happen next. That is, it you take “conscientious” ownership of your feelings and emotions, you will find yourself left with options to choose all of sudden. It will be YOU who will be the one in control and not at the mercy of OTHERS. This change of thinking will empower you to control your emotions and feelings, so that you will know what to say or do next to your own advantage. Thus your enslavement to others acts will be obviated. You are Sui Juris of your own feelings, emotions, and actions. Indeed so.
It is a simple but challenging thing to change your mode of thinking that has been conditioned until now. But at least, you can try it. Just give it a go for just 30 days or even longer with consistency, and see how it works. It may not be changed overnight for sure, just as Rome wasn’t built for a day. Nevertheless, I will be an Olympic torch carrier for this mind game because I myself need to revitalize my mind and spirit in development of EQ for betterment. Does anyone want to join me?